Patience. Not a word a person like me who prefers everything to be planned out enjoys hearing. Why must almost every trial and good thing in life require us to have long-lasting patience? Why can’t life give us a break for a little while? You would think it would get easier as we grow older, but it doesn’t; not really. I’ve been learning how to have more daily patience, and I wanted to share my thoughts on having patience in an impatient world.
It seems the world has a timeline we are all racing to keep up with. School subjects are being taught earlier, high-school students are graduating with associate degrees, double-majoring in 3-4 years is not uncommon, and having a job landed weeks before you even graduate is the status-quo. You can learn and work harder than anyone else and you still feel behind the pace of the world. Even the bar for “average” seems impossible to reach.
When my husband and I got married, we were young . . . super young. Heck, we are still young! A month after the big day, T.R. started his first year working towards his bachelor’s degree. I began working 50-60 hour weeks to support us, and he also worked to help with the bills. Now I’m not going to give you my whole life story, but that preface is important for what I am about to say. From day one I have looked forward to day 1361 when we would be finished. School has been tough on us. There is so much unknown in this world and in our decisions, and that really scared me in the beginning of our marriage. Every year of school we’ve had a bump in the road that has thrown our plans off by 180 degrees. “Just get through school” has been our motto. Life will be happy then, things won’t be so hard, right?
I’ve felt like these past three years we have been running with little distance gained. The more school we get through the more we realize how far behind we are. Although I know this is untrue, the world makes our actions seem useless. It tells us to not push for our dreams because someone has already fulfilled them, to not create because someone has already created, to go into this career but not this one, etc . . .
Phew . . . the noise in our head when we are relying on the world’s perspective to determine what we “should” do is overwhelming. It can be difficult to find that balance between what we want to do and keeping our eyes open to the way the world works. I’m afraid the only advice I have is to develop patience. We will never be the best, have the most, or know more than everyone else. Life isn’t even about that. Live is about living; progressing at our own pace in our own way. Patience is what enables us to live in the moment. Finding gratitude for each day, finding joy in the little moments, focusing on the week ahead, and remembering to cherish this time in life is a recipe for success. We need to have patience to grow. I invite you to join with me in having more patience with strangers, patience with those we love, and patience with ourselves.
What are your thoughts on patience? What are some tools you use to have more patience with yourself or those around you? I would love to read your thoughts in the comment section below.